These days, not knowing "how" is only an excuse to lean into your fears.
Marsha Foster • March 8, 2026
Thoughts from my recent business building experiences...
Most mornings, I awaken and spend some time with myself. It needs to be a non-negotiable but you know...life. My ritual is to open my book entitled The Pivot Year-365 Days To Become The Person You Truly Want To Be
by Brianna Weist. I open to the bookmark holding the spot of my next daily ponderance, date the page today's digits and proceed to read.
Normally, I write my takeaways from the passage on the book page itself as it's become a sort of journal too, although I'm not sure that's how it was intended. Today's begins with "When you're presented with a new idea that defies your own limitations for yourself, I hope you will not fight to preserve those limitations". Heard, Brianna, heard.
It started me thinking, not knowing how to do something these days is an excuse to lean into my fear of not being enough and giving in to staying stuck, all because I'm fearful of failure. We live in an unprecedented time of knowledge, a world where there's somewhere to access nearly any knowledge I need to grow and prosper whether that be practical and earthside or using meditation to present my needs to the Universe. Using AI, the interwebs or listening for unctions from on high are equal in that if my mind and heart aren't open to listen for the answer and receive it, it will likely go unnoticed.
I've been building a business for the last 6 months. It's a new one, but it's not. It's more of an evolution. Only recently did I land on a name for what I am doing in this new business. I'm a Confidence & Visibility Coach. Using my skills gleaned in all the jobs I've ever had and a culmination of neary 20 years of intense personal growth, I'm evolving into who I want to be.
Back to the knowing how... I have a coach. A fantastic coach I've pulled out all the stops for to retain & compensate. Among the hundreds of aha moments in the last few months, I've learned to stop using "I don't know how" as an excuse to not follow my dreams. I've learned to ask for help, to find help, to create help to listen for the answers in a patient enough way to still be present with it when the answer comes. Big breakthrough. I feel so much more limitless than I used to. It's a muscle though, I still forget I have help. Old habits of feeling helpless die hard.
I'll leave you with this
Universal Mind is my mind
And I have access to any and all
Information I choose to download
Here's to blowing past limitations...
Love,
Marsha
What does it mean to surrender? Who or what am I surrendering to? Surrender is a vague concept to me. But, as I ponder it this comes: I am surrendering to the need to try so hard to succeed. Success comes easily when I allow the Universe to bring it to me instead of chasing it, forcing it or requiring it to show up on my own terms. Ultimately, it's the letting go of the outcome of the thing I'm wadded up over and then... the outcome of anything afterward. It's letting go of expectations, dollar amounts and the behavior of any person I've imagined to fall in line with my plans. If I'm honest, it's a tricky thing to release. So many years of imagining myself as the star on the stage while my haters beheld me from the nosebleed section has me feeling like a self righteous martyr. The recollection of words that may or may not have even been spoken to me, "you'll never amount to anything"- still sting. It was more of a feeling that took hold of me in those years of teenage motherhood, isolation, domestic violence, mental and emotional abuse at the hand of a man who wasn't much more of an adult than I was. His childhood experiences made our life inevitable. A couple of mangled puzzle pieces forced together for the sake of finding a piece that sort-of fits. Our traumas attracted one another. Here's the conundrum... How do I strike a balance? If I don't try to succeed, how does it happen? How do I do all the things I need to do in my businesses with surrender? If I completely surrender wouldn't that mean nothing gets done? How does success happen? Where is the middle ground? Then I remembered something I learned recently in my Nervous System Regulation Certification Training. A continuum. As I was journaling I sketched it out: